Inclusion 6: Traits in Winning Relationships

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winning relationships

To have winning relationships, certain things need to be present.

Respect
Safety
Trust
Caring
Communication
Independence

Assess the scenarios and click on the pendant to decide whether you think the situation is yes or no in a healthy relationship.

safety

Instead of taking the usual way home, Marina suggests to Kendall that they take a short cut along the train tracks. When Kendall says that she isn’t comfortable doing that, Marina laughs and calls her a chicken.

OKAY
NOT OKAY

TRUST

Malcolm can tell that Pat has not been himself over the past couple months. He asks Pat if everything is okay. Pat tells Malcolm that his parents are separating. He asks Malcolm not to say anything. Pat agrees and does not share what Pat told him.

OKAY
NOT OKAY

CARING

Angie and Shanice both tried out for the school hockey team, but only Shanice made the first cut. Angie is upset that she didn’t make the team. Shanice tells her that she needs to “get over it” like she did when she didn’t make the soccer team last year.

OKAY
NOT OKAY

COMMUNICATION

Chloe and Madison usually walk home together after school. At the end of the day, Chloe was waiting for Madison at their usual spot but Madison didn’t show up. As Chloe walked past the gym, she saw Madison trying out for the basketball team. That night, Chloe called Madison and told her that she was worried when she wasn’t there after school. She explained to Madison that, while she knows it wasn’t her intent to make her worry and that it is great that she was trying out for the team, she would really appreciate it if Madison could let her know if she won’t be walking home with her.

OKAY
NOT OKAY

independence

James and Jamal have had a great weekend playing road hockey and swimming. On Sunday afternoon, James tells Jamal that he is going to go home for some down time.

OKAY
NOT OKAY

RESPECT

Alex (he/him) and Jordan (he/him) are teammates on the school basketball team. During practice, Alex always listens to Jordan's ideas for new plays and encourages Jordan to share more. However, recently, Alex started dismissing Jordan's suggestions and mocking the ideas in front of the team.

Question: Do you think Alex is showing respect towards Jordan?

YES
NO

safety

Sam (she/they) and Taylor (they/them) are doubles partners when playing badminton in Phys. Ed class. During matches, Sam gets very angry whenever Taylor makes a mistake, sometimes yelling and throwing their racket. Taylor is feeling nervous and scared whenever they are partnered up to play with Sam.

Question: Does Taylor feel safe with Sam as a partner?

YES
NO

TRUST

River and Lee are on the same soccer team. River confides in Lee about their fear of not making the starting lineup. Later, Lee shares River’s fear with other teammates as a joke.

Question: Is Lee showing they are trustworthy?

YES
NO

CARING

Riley sprains their ankle during a volleyball game. Jamal, Riley's teammate, immediately helps them off the court, gets their water bottle, and stays with him until the coach arrives.

Question for Students: Is Jamal showing that he cares about Riley?

YES
NO

COMMUNICATION

The track team is planning a surprise party for their coach. Instead of discussing the plan with the whole team, Ali decides everything alone and only tells a few close friends. When the party is disorganized, Ali blames the rest of the team for not knowing what to do.

Question: Is Ali practicing good communication with the team?

YES
NO

independence

Jackie and Juan are in a romantic relationship and on the same swim team. Jackie constantly insists on Juan training only with them and not with any other teammates, saying it's the only way to keep their relationship strong.

Question for Students: Is Jackie infringing on Juan’s independence?

YES
NO