Bad move! This behaviour suggests a lack of empathy. How would you feel if this was happening to you? There can also be serious consequences for you as a result of your actions. Remember, everyone has the right to feel safe.

Good move! Making it right can include encouraging others to stop as well. You may need to seek help from a trusted adult to make sure the harassment stops. Apologizing to Sara and helping her to feel welcome on the team and at school would be the best demonstration of positive leadership and maturity.

What would you say if you were in this situation?

Model statements:

● I’m sorry about the way I’ve been treating you. It won’t happen again.
● This has gone too far and I’m sorry. I’ll try to make sure everyone backs off.

Bad move! Cyberbullying is not ok, and it is not normal. You have the right to feel safe, welcome and included – both at your school and on your team. 

Bad move! There are lots of benefits to technology. Instead, speak to a trusted adult to help block harmful messages from reaching you.

• STOP – Log off the site where the bullying is occurring.
• BLOCK – Block numbers and accounts of those who are harassing you.
• RECORD – Save or take screenshots all harmful messages or posts, and immediately show them to a trusted adult.
• TALK – Seek help from a trusted adult.

Good move! This is not something you should have to handle alone.

What would you say if you were Sara?

Model statements:

● I need some help (describe the situation, and show them the messages/screenshots)
● (Describe the situation, and show them the messages/screenshots) I don’t think I can handle this on my own

Good move! This is a good start. Consider choosing another move if you feel safe to do so.

Good move! Upstanders can take advantage of online anonymity to respectfully and assertively send the message that bullying is not okay. You can also use the features of a social media platforms (e.g., dislikes, downvotes) to diminish the power of those who are victimizing Sara.

What would you say in this situation?

Model statements:

● Not everyone agrees with this. You’re awesome, Sara!
● This is not cool. Don’t listen to her, Sara!

Good move! You can ask her to sit with you at lunch, invite her to warm up with you at basketball practice, etc. You can also reassure her that you don’t support what is happening, and that you’re there to help. Even one caring friend can make a big difference for the person being bullied.

What would you say to Sara?

Model statements:

● Hey, you should know that I’m not cool with what’s happening. Why don’t you sit with me at lunch tomorrow?
● I’m sorry she’s being mean. It’s not right. How can I help?

Good move! This is not something young people should have to handle alone, because bullying is NOT a normal interaction. 

What would you say if you were in this situation?

Model statements:

● I need some help (describe the situation, and show them the messages/screenshots)
● (Describe the situation, and show them the messages/screenshots) I don’t think I can handle this on my own