Bad move! This behaviour is clearly harming your teammate, which could also affect the whole team. Teams do better when everyone feels safe and included.

Good move! Everyone has an off day sometimes, just like everyone makes comments without thinking sometimes. This move shows empathy and positive leadership, and it’s not an empty apology – You’re also taking the extra step to make it right.

What would you say if you were Maleah?

Model statements:

● Hey, I’m sorry about that. I wasn’t thinking.
● My bad. Everyone has an off day. It won’t happen again.

Bad move! This could cause the situation to escalate. It won’t help Maleah understand the impact of her actions. In fact, it might embolden her.

Good move! A direct, but respectful comment can help Maleah to see how her behaviour impacts others. However, you should only choose this move if you feel safe to do so.

What would you say to Maleah if you were Cali?

Model statements:

● So I had a bad practice. So what?
● Do you really have to rub it in my face?

Good move! Maleah has no right to make you feel badly, and you don’t have to stay there and put up with it. 

Good move! You can have your teammates ask Maleah to stop. If that doesn’t work, you could seek help from a trusted adult. Reporting is NOT the same as ratting or snitching.

What would you say to your teammates if you were Cali?

Model statements:

● A little help, anyone?
● We all have off days. Can you help me by asking Maleah to stop?

Bad move! Joining in  won’t help the problem. In fact, it could make the situation worse by further upsetting  Maleah. It is not ok to be mean to others and to try to make others feel badly about themselves.

Good move! A direct, but respectful comment can help Maleah to see how her behaviour impacts others. However, you should only choose this move if you feel safe to do so.

What would you say to Maleah?

Model statements:

● Not cool, Maleah. Everyone has an off day sometimes.
● So she had a bad practice. Who cares? 

Good move! Everyone has a bad practice sometimes, and it’s nothing to be ashamed about. You can also ask her to sit with you, and maybe even warm up with you at the next practice.

What would you say to Cali?

Model statements:

● She shouldn’t be picking on you like that. It’s not cool.
● I’m sorry she’s being a bad teammate. Why don’t you warm up with me next practice?

Good move! If you can’t get Maleah to stop on your own, it is a good idea to report the situation to a trusted adult. Reporting is NOT the same as ratting or snitching.

What would you say to the adult if you were in this situation?

Model statements:

● I need some help (describe situation)
● (Describe situation) I’m not sure what to do about this